Ahoy, friends!! I have had a couple of reminders recently about Christmas holiday burdens and joys. Haven’t we all!! Before you run off in reaction to my Happy Holidays inclusion thoughts, be assured that this is not exactly that. You don’t have to be excluded from my inclusion!! There’s plenty of room in here.
I used to feel so sorry for my cousins who lived in the desert and only had Christmas snow as a fluke. I felt sorry for myself not having a tree last year at all. As kids, we all felt a pang for our Jewish friends who didn’t get to experience the full Kris Kringle. This year, I shopped for a family that can’t shop for each other, even though I have no business buying gifts at all.
All these things have in common a perversion of Christmas: that it should be neatly summed up by a very, very specific version of the holiday: all jolly, cold, abundant, standard and “normal” family included. Why did we ever think that? My crew used to impersonate a standard family, but we never were standard. Why try to be otherwise? Why try to jam your round family into a square box?
Our church has added a Blue Christmas service for people who are having a sad season. I love it. Why force anyone into the joy corner just because the calendar reaches a designated joy spot? This has also made me recognize that while I am having some joy, I am also mourning a lot of people with whom I have spent Christmases. Those bummers just keep on bubbling and plenty of other emotions may show up within plenty of other contexts.
In some ways, Christmas is just a day, but it’s also a breath of hope, or it can be hopeful if you like hope.
So with that in mind, I would like to wish you peace for whatever you are having. Please don’t sweat the uncooperative toddler train garden or the lonesome desert Hanukah–unless you want to sweat, of course.
I hope you find love under every tree, even the scrubby and unattractive trees, and I hope you find a way to truly love yourself everywhere else, also.
This tree isn’t going to decorate another tree, ya know.
Boo caught a mouse the other night and in the mighty battle, unplugged the Christmas tree. Figures. If you want to sponsor an ornament for this situation, you can!! If you want to send me a picture to cut out and put on the tree, that could happen, too!! I probably don’t have time to color anything because it would take too long to find my art supplies right now. Ho Ho Ho Boy!!